Marriage Preparation Information

 

Marriage Preparation Information

The Diocese of Saint Cloud congratulates you on beginning your journey towards a sacramental marriage! 

Your desire for a Christ-centered marriage will nurture and strengthen you, as a couple, in your love for each other and God. The preparation you will receive will challenge you to grow in your relationship – spiritually, physically and emotionally. Each phase of your preparation is designed for you to take home skills and tools that develops a faith-filled, lifelong commitment.

The Marriage Preparation Course  is a requirement of all couples getting married in the Diocese of St. Cloud.  The presentations and topics for discussion include: Our Journey with God, Handling Conflict, Problem Solving, Adjustments in Marriage, Sexuality, Forgiveness, Natural Family Planning & Commitment.

 

Register early! 

What do we need to do to prepare for Marriage in the Catholic Church?

Step 1 Schedule a Meeting with your parish priest or deacon

Contact your parish where you reside as soon as possible after your engagement and at least six months before your expected wedding day. Your parish priest or deacon will explain all of the requirements for your marriage in the Church.  All requirements should be met at least three (3) months prior to your wedding date.

 

Special circumstances should be addressed with the priest or deacon.  Please discuss if:

  • One or both of you have been married before, even civilly.
  • You are now civilly married to each other and wish to have your marriage validated (“blessed”) by the Catholic Church.
  • You are presently living together.
  • Either of you is a teenager.
  • A pregnancy is involved.

Caution:  To avoid disappointment, do not book your reception until you have a confirmed date from the Church.

Step 2:  Prepare Documentation

Your priest or deacon will explain the required documentation you need to be married in the Church:

  • Baptismal Certificate obtained within the last six (6) months (no photocopies)
  • Pre-Nuptial Investigation for the bride and groom
  • Witness Questionnaires
  • Proper dispensation, permissions or delegations as needed
  • Civil marriage license

If either of you has been married before, even in a civil ceremony, please check with your priest regarding the possibility of annulment.  Take care to provide accurate information and documentation regarding any past marriage(s).  If you need to petition for  Declaration of Nullity, you will need the final decision before proceeding with the following steps.

Step 3:  Take Premarital Inventory

The Fully Engaged Premarital Inventory addresses issues engaged couples need to consider for their marriage.  You will get all the information on how to take the inventory at your parish.

Once you have completed the inventory, you will meet with your parish priest, deacon or sponsor couple to discuss your confidential results.  The inventory is designed to reveal more about relationships, expectations, living a life of faith and entering into the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.

Step 4:  Schedule Marriage Preparation Weekend

Preparation is necessary for all the sacraments of the faith including the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.  Marriage Preparation is not just a “requirement” to be fulfilled before you can have a Church wedding.  Rather, the Church offers this time so you can step away from the details of the wedding day and focus, as a couple, on nurturing a lifetime commitment to each other with God.

For dates, locations and registration, see the tabs below and select the course that fits your individual situation.  Programs are available in English and Spanish.

Step 5:  Follow-up with Natural Family Planning Classes

Basic NFP concepts are included in all Marriage Courses in the Diocese of St. Cloud. A full course on NFP is highly recommended for engaged couples prior to marriage.  NFP helps build the marriage relationship and strength of character necessary for a lifelong marriage.  This modern method of family planning is in harmony with Church teaching and is a safe, healthy, effective and very low cost way to plan your family.  More information on taking the additional classes will be provided at your Marriage Preparation Course.

Step 6:  Receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation

As Catholics, the Sacrament of Reconciliation (Penance or Confession) and Holy Eucharist should be vital aspects of your growth as a disciple of Christ and His Church.  Receiving these sacraments will help you prepare you for a more meaningful experience of your wedding liturgy and to enter into your marriage covenant with your future spouse and God.

2018-19 Marriage Course Dates, Information and Resources

Pastoral Center, St. Cloud location – only (price $175)

December 1 & 2, 2018  (Closed)

January 19 & 20, 2019

February 23 & 24, 2019

March 16 & 17, 2019

April 13 & 14, 2019

Registration

Register early!

      Weekends are limited to 35 couples per date.

Registration can be done onlineby mail or in person.

Full payment of $175 is required to reserve a date.

Enclose payment of  $175 to the Office of Marriage & Family or pay online.

Submit only one registration.  Multiple registrations will cancel each other.

Click here to register and pay online    (St. Cloud location only) or download/print a registration form

Mail or drop off the completed form to:

Office of Marriage & Family
305 7th Avenue North, Suite 100
St. Cloud  MN  56303
 

 Weekend Confirmation:

Is emailed AFTER registration information & payment are received.

Incomplete & unpaid registrations will not be processed.

Confirmation is sent electronically.  Please monitor your e-mail as it may take 1 to 3 days before information is sent.

 

Contact the Office of Marriage & Family at 320-252-4721 or jzylla@gw.stcdio.org with questions or concerns.

Cancellation – No Show Policy

• A $75 non-refundable administrative fee is charged for canceling a scheduled Marriage Course.

• No Show ~ No Refund. Couples will need to re-register and repay full course fee.

 

Schedule

The schedule lists the starting and ending times of the course and provides an overview of the topics presented.

 

On Sunday, Mass will conclude our weekend.  This will fulfill our weekly obligation for Sunday liturgy.

Important Note:

To receive a certificate, participants are required to attend all scheduled sessions If unable to attend the course in its entirety, contact the Office of Marriage & Family as soon as possible, prior to the weekend at 320-252-4721 or 800-624-9019 option 2 — Marriage Course/Jan.

When scheduling a weekend, set aside some private time Saturday evening (a nice quiet  meal, some time in prayer) to finish the discussions you had during the day.

Natural Family Planning

As a couple, watch the “Natural Family Planning Is…” video (found below) and complete the attached reflection questions.  This video gives some basic insights from a couple’s perspective on the beauty of the Church’s teaching on sexuality and the importance of being open to life.  Our goal is to prepare you for the material presented at the weekend and deepen your understanding of your upcoming marriage in Christ.  The video is approximately 30 minutes in length. https://vimeo.com/40875185

Food Shelf Donation

As Christian couples, we are called to share our time, talent and financial resources.  The act of giving is a sign that you have formed a partnership with Christ in caring for your brothers and sisters.  You are invited to bring a nonperishable food item or a cash/check donation for the Caritas Food Shelf .  Click here for a list of suggested food items to donate.

Dress Attire

Please wear comfortable clothing.  Sessions will be in the Chapel at the Pastoral Center and you will do a fair amount of sitting during the weekend.  Breaks will be given throughout the days.

Refreshments and Lunch

Refreshments are included each day.  Lunch is provided on Saturday.

Directions and Location

The Marriage Course is held at the Pastoral Center, located across the street from Cathedral High School.  You may park in the lot off of 4th Street North — a “Marriage Course” sign will  be posted at the entrance.  Directions to the Pastoral Center can be found here.

Step 6:  Receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation

As Catholics, the Sacrament of Reconciliation (Penance or Confession) and Holy Eucharist should be vital aspects of your growth as a disciple of Christ and His Church.  Receiving these sacraments will help you prepare you for a more meaningful experience of your wedding liturgy and to enter into your marriage covenant with your future spouse and God.

Marriage Courses Outside of St Cloud

Marriage Course weekends in Perham or Sauk Centre

To register for one of these locations, complete the following steps:

• Download/print a registration form and fill out.
• Make payment payable to the parish.
• Mail (or drop off) the completed registration form and payment to the parish.

NOTE: Second marriage curriculum is not included.  Please register for a weekend in St. Cloud.

Please DO NOT REGISTER or PAY ONLINE for a marriage course in Perham or Sauk Centre.  Registration is by mail or in person only.


Dates & Locations

March 8 & 9, 2019 – Perham ($175)

St. Henry’s Parish
234 SW 2nd Ave
Perham, MN  56378
218-346-4240

March 9 & 10, 2019 – Sauk Centre ($175)

St. Paul’s Parish
304 Sinclair Lewis Ave
Sauk Centre  MN  56378
320-352-3502

 

Marriage Preparation Retreats/Seminars outside the Diocese of St. Cloud:

Diocese of Crookston

Diocese of Duluth

Diocese of Fargo

Diocese of New Ulm

Diocese of Winona

Archdiocese of St. Paul & Minneapolis

Catholic Engaged Encounter

2018-19 Second Marriage Course Dates, Information and Resources

The Second Marriage Preparation Course is for couples preparing to marry after the death of a spouse or an annulment. Marriage preparation must be completed at least three months before the date of the wedding celebration. It is recommended you complete the course well in advance (six months or more). Many couples take the course one year before their wedding.

  • March 23, 2019
  • October 12, 2019

Registration

  • Register early!  Weekends are limited to 35 couples per date.
  • Registration can be done onlineby mail or in person.
  • Full payment of $175 is required to reserve a date.
  • Enclose payment of  $175 to the Office of Marriage & Family or pay online.
  • Submit only one registration.  Multiple registrations will cancel each other.
  • Click here to register and pay online (St. Cloud location only) or download/print a registration form
  • Mail or drop off the completed form to:
Office of Marriage & Family
305 7th Avenue North, Suite 100
St. Cloud  MN  56303
  •  Confirmation:
    • Is sent AFTER registration information & payment are received.
    • Incomplete & unpaid registrations will not be processed.
    • Confirmation is sent electronically.  Please monitor your e-mail as it may take 1 to 3 days before you receive notice of which weekend you are registered for.

Contact the Office of Marriage & Family at 320-252-4721 or jzylla@gw.stcdio.org with questions or concerns.

Cancellation – No Show Policy

• A $75 non-refundable administrative fee is charged for canceling a scheduled Marriage Course.

• No Show ~ No Refund. Couples will need to re-register and repay full course fee.

Schedule

The Second Marriage Preparation Course schedule:

Saturday, 8:00 AM to 5 PM.

The $175 fee includes refreshments, noon meal and materials.

 

Important Note:

To receive a certificate, participants are required to attend all scheduled sessions.  If unable to attend the course in its entirety, contact the Office of Marriage & Family as soon as possible, prior to the weekend at 320-252-4721 or 800-624-9019 ext. 319 — Jan/general mailbox.

When you are scheduling a weekend, please make sure you include setting aside some private time Saturday evening (a nice quiet  meal, some time in prayer, and the opportunity to finish the discussions you had during the day).

Natural Family Planning

As a couple, watch the “Natural Family Planning Is…” video (found below) and complete the attached reflection questions.  This video will give you some basic insights from a couple’s perspective on the beauty of the Church’s teaching on sexuality and the importance of being open to life.  Our goal is to prepare you for the material presented at the weekend and deepen your understanding of your upcoming marriage in Christ.  The video is approximately 30 minutes in length. https://vimeo.com/40875185

Food Shelf Donation

As Christian couples, we are called to share our time, talent and financial resources.  The act of giving is a sign that you have formed a partnership with Christ in caring for your brothers and sisters.  Therefore, you are invited to bring a nonperishable food item or a cash/check donation for the Caritas Food Shelf .  Click here for a list of suggested food items to donate.

Dress Attire

Please wear comfortable clothing.  You will do a fair amount of sitting during the weekend.  Breaks will be given throughout the day.

Refreshments and Lunch

Refreshments and lunch are included.

Directions and Location

The Marriage Course is held at the Pastoral Center located across the street from Cathedral High School.  You may park in the lot off of 4th Street North — a “Marriage Course” sign will  be posted at the entrance.  Directions to the Pastoral Center can be found here.

Step 6:  Receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation

As Catholics, the Sacrament of Reconciliation (Penance or Confession) and Holy Eucharist should be vital aspects of your growth as a disciple of Christ and His Church.  Receiving these sacraments will help you prepare you for a more meaningful experience of your wedding liturgy and to enter into your marriage covenant with your future spouse and God.

2018-19 Hispanic/Latino Marriage Course Dates

Hispanic/Latino Marriage Course

The course is designed to prepare those entering into the Sacrament of Matrimony, either as beginning marriage or having their marriage blessed in the Catholic Church after a civil marriage.

The schedule of the Hispanic Marriage Preparation Course: Saturday, 8:00 AM to 5:00 PM. The $ 110 fee includes  materials, food and noon meal.

  • Noviembre 10, 2018
  • Marzo 30, 2019
  • Noviembre 9, 2019

Registration

• Registration can be done onlineby mail or in person.
• Full payment of $110 is required to reserve a date.
Enclose payment of  $110 to the Office of Marriage & Family or pay online.
• Submit only one registration.  Multiple registrations will cancel each other.
Click here to register and pay online (St. Cloud location only) or download/print a registration form

 

 

 

Mail or drop off the completed form to:

Office of Marriage & Family
305 7th Avenue North, Suite 100
St. Cloud  MN  56303

 Confirmation:

  • Is sent AFTER registration information & payment are received.
  • Incomplete & unpaid registrations will not be processed.
  • Confirmation is sent electronically.  Please monitor your e-mail as it may take 1 to 3 days before you receive notice of which weekend you are registered for.

Contact the Office of Marriage & Family at 320-252-4721 or jzylla@gw.stcdio.org with questions or concerns.

Cancellation – No Show Policy

  • A $50 non-refundable administrative fee is charged for canceling a scheduled Marriage Course.
  • No Show ~ No Refund. Couples will need to re-register and repay full course fee.

Schedule

The Hispanic/Latino Marriage Preparation Course schedule:

Saturday, 8:00 AM to 5 PM.

The $110 fee includes refreshments, noon meal and materials.

When you are scheduling a weekend, please make sure you include setting aside some private time Saturday evening (a nice quiet  meal, some time in prayer, and the opportunity to finish the discussions you had during the day).

Natural Family Planning

As a couple, watch the “Natural Family Planning Is…” video (found below) and complete the attached reflection questions.  This video will give you some basic insights from a couple’s perspective on the beauty of the Church’s teaching on sexuality and the importance of being open to life.  Our goal is to prepare you for the material presented at the weekend and deepen your understanding of your upcoming marriage in Christ.  The video is approximately 30 minutes in length.   http://vimeo.com/45923893 

 

Food Shelf Donation

As Christian couples, we are called to share our time, talent and financial resources.  The act of giving is a sign that you have formed a partnership with Christ in caring for your brothers and sisters.  Therefore, you are invited to bring a nonperishable food item or a cash/check donation for the Caritas Food Shelf .  Click here for a list of suggested food items to donate.

Dress Attire

Please wear comfortable clothing.  Our sessions will be in the Chapel at the Pastoral Center and you will do a fair amount of sitting during the weekend.  Breaks will be given throughout the days.

Refreshments and Lunch

Refreshments and Lunch are included.

Directions & Location

The Marriage Course is held at the Pastoral Center located across the street from Cathedral High School.  You may park in the lot off of 4th Street North — a “Marriage Course” sign will  be posted at the entrance.  Directions to the Pastoral Center can be found here.

Step 6:  Receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation

As Catholics, the Sacrament of Reconciliation (Penance or Confession) and Holy Eucharist should be vital aspects of your growth as a disciple of Christ and His Church.  Receiving these sacraments will help you prepare you for a more meaningful experience of your wedding liturgy and to enter into your marriage covenant with your future spouse and God.

Directions

Directions and Location

The marriage course is held at the Pastoral Center located across the street from Cathedral High School.  You may park in the lot off of 4th Street North — a “Marriage Course” sign will  be posted at the entrance.  Directions to the Pastoral Center can be found here.

Cancellation Policy and Bad Weather

Cancellation Policy  

$50 non-refundable administrative fee is charged for canceling a scheduled Marriage Course.

No Show ~ No Refund. Couples will need to re-register and repay full course fee.

In case of an emergency, please call (320) 258-7611 and leave a message with your name and phone number. Every effort will be made to reschedule you in the next available marriage preparation course.

 

Bad Weather

Inclement weather can occur anytime through the year.  We make every attempt to hold the course if at all possible.  We also want to ensure the safety of all who attend.  In case of bad weather,  we will do the following:

  • An e-mail notices (and/or phone calls) will be initiated approximately 12 to 24 hours prior to your scheduled weekend to inform you of a course cancellation or schedule change.
  • If there is no weather related message or contact, the course will go on as scheduled.
  • Please monitor your e-mails (or phone messages) frequently within this 24-hour period, especially during severe weather seasons and/or conditions!
  • If the weather conditions in your area are questionable and you are unable to travel, please leave a message with your name and phone number. Every effort will be made to reschedule you in the next available marriage preparation course. Call 320-252-4721 (local calls) or 800-624-9019 (outside of the St. Cloud area) to determine if the course will be held or to leave a message.
  • Office hours: Monday through Friday, 8:30 to 11:45 AM and 1 to 4:30 PM.